Friday, January 09, 2009

Psychological axioms.

The ultimate female fantasy is to have the one man that all the other females desperately want , but HER special uniqueness, her beauty, her feminine charms has “tamed” and “captured” him into committed monogamy.

(HT David from Hawaii)


Tom said...

her feminine charms has “tamed” and “captured” him into committed monogamyI have to disagree with the last line. It's that the object of desire finds her so 'special', that he has eyes for no one else.

'special' has the advantage of being undefinable and yet absolutely intrinsic to what one is, so there's no fear that someone else could be 'better'.

To be honest, I think it's a *male* fantasy that a woman or women are 'captured' by his sexual charms or prowess.

The Social Pathologist said...

Disagree. The little bit that I have read with to stripper psychology also tends to point to this conclusion. Lots to women love the idea that they can "out attract" their other competitors. It is sort of a confirmation of their alpha position and a form of supreme self validation. i.e. When the hottest guy in the room picks me, then I must be the most attractive; all other women are less attractive than me. I'm alpha.
The pleasure is in getting the guy and in the validation of social dominance. Yes, it's fairly narcissistic.

Tom said...

...stripper psychology...Ah, that would be the difference. I was thinking about why young girls can get suckered into very bad relationships on the desperate hope that they're special in a way that attracts and tames an unruly male.

(Perhaps echoes of what I was told in my youth. "I know you treat me well. But it doesn't matter. You treat *everyone* well." :-)

Anyway, there's a lot of romance (which is as close to female wish fulfillment as you get) that captures 'special' meme . I don't know of a lot of fiction aimed at women that depends on the women's sexual attractiveness (although she's always attractive, that's not what captures him) to snare the male.

Of course, I don't read a lot of romance, so this trope may have changed in the last 20 years.

Keoni Galt said...

Gees...can't believe it took me so long to find your excellent blog, sir!

I don't even remember where I wrote that...was that at Roissy's comment section?

The Social Pathologist said...

Thanks for dropping by Dave from Hawaii. I think your one of the best commentators on the Game blogs out there and perhaps have been the most lucid proponent of the value of Game in marriage.

Best Wishes.

Anonymous said...

As a female, I have to say that a truer statement has never been said.