tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29137904.post4892033327186725458..comments2024-03-29T20:21:24.821+11:00Comments on The Social Pathologist: Love in the time of Hedonism.The Social Pathologisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12927698533626086780noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29137904.post-5856856224428386592010-10-08T10:57:08.401+11:002010-10-08T10:57:08.401+11:00It depends what you mean by happiness.It depends what you mean by happiness.The Social Pathologisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927698533626086780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29137904.post-75870099040481184682010-10-08T06:09:29.487+11:002010-10-08T06:09:29.487+11:00I am so sick and tired of the misuse of the word &...I am so sick and tired of the misuse of the word 'hedonism'. Hedonism has nothing to do with ethical egoism, an egoist is not necessarily a hedonist and most hedonists are utilitarians. Hedonism is a theory of value which states that happiness is the only intrinsic good and stress is the only intrinsic bad. If happiness is good, then it is good regardless of who experiences it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29137904.post-31774385912468687902009-09-02T10:44:26.996+10:002009-09-02T10:44:26.996+10:00"They argued and fought, she bossed him and h..."They argued and fought, she bossed him and he annoyed her but he was always there for her and she for him."<br /><br />The idea of unconditional love as it is commonly understood is: no matter how ugly you are, how harshly you treat someone, or how you wrong that person, they would still love you. That's not really love. It's more like abuse, and the abused person is welcoming further abuse which perpetuates the cycle.<br /><br />I was in a long relationship where there was constant fighting, and it was awful. With this man that I've been living with for a while, we resolve issues by talking them out calmly, trying not to attack or hurt each other, and being honest.<br /><br />So because of this we are able to have a healthy relationship without much strife. We have the understanding that we respect each other and therefore will not bring harm to each other. <br /><br />Related to your other post: I do not think that the idea of taking "pleasure" in another is love. It is more like "wishing someone else well even if it brings you yourself no pleasure." A loving father would wish to see his daughter happy with another man even though it means he is no longer the man she loves the most. That is selfless, unconditional love, as opposed to perhaps a selfish sort of love a man who wants to keep a woman around for his own pleasures would feel.Hopehttp://hope.gameurb.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29137904.post-43736714805281362552009-05-06T12:20:00.000+10:002009-05-06T12:20:00.000+10:00Answer: Potential and remnant goodness.A very good...<I>Answer: Potential and remnant goodness.</I>A very good answer. Thank you.Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04894012303210613148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29137904.post-85591538460702718672009-05-01T10:58:00.000+10:002009-05-01T10:58:00.000+10:00Very good question.
Answer: Potential and remnant...Very good question.<br /><br />Answer: Potential and remnant goodness.<br /><br />Imagine a couple who initially are deeply in love and after years the "love" fades. The unconditional love is directed to the loved as it was and the hope that it will be that again. Unconditional love is directed toward our potential goodness. It loves us for what are capable of being not what we are. It could also be said to be a function of the intellect and not a sentiment, hence a duty.<br /><br />As I say to my troubled married couples, try to see in each other what your saw in each other when you first met, and work towards that vision.The Social Pathologisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927698533626086780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29137904.post-26259549187361411842009-05-01T01:25:00.000+10:002009-05-01T01:25:00.000+10:00I've never been a fan of unconditional love (excep...I've never been a fan of unconditional love (except perhaps parental love).<br /><br />If someone's love for you is truly unconditional and does not depend on what you are and what you do, what about you is truly being loved?Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04894012303210613148noreply@blogger.com