tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29137904.post697143039567102957..comments2024-03-29T20:21:24.821+11:00Comments on The Social Pathologist: Caveman Love: Some Interesting Papers.The Social Pathologisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12927698533626086780noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29137904.post-13833605796591762242011-04-13T05:48:44.634+10:002011-04-13T05:48:44.634+10:00Statistical studies are bullshit for the simple re...Statistical studies are bullshit for the simple reason that they don't find the cause. It's quite possible that the current society we live in is sick out of its gourd.<br /><br />Now begging for sex is a turn off even for men. The reason is that you are signaling to her, or him, or anyone (it is universally true in all human interaction) that you are her or his subject, that you aren't an equal in the relationship. It's impossible to have a relationship when you socially see yourself as less than human. Now given our shitty modern predicament, where we are surrounded by puerile men, the woman finds little alternative to the classic "asshole", because at least the asshole seems like he can take a punch and survive it. What women really are looking for is a man who is confident and mature, mentally stable gentleman with a spine of his own. You can't relate to a kissass, and you can't relate to a jerk, but idiots always manage to fail to break out of that sick paradigm. She is not looking for an aggressive alpha male unless she herself is mentally f'ed. This is how I manage to talk to any person for more than five minutes. You can always find something to relate to with every person, you just have to keep your audience in mind and quit being so goddamn self-centered. <br /><br />Violence like that isn't natural when a human being is actually psychologically balanced. For this reason the geeks and the jocks are actually both just as screwed up, they just respond differently to their mental illness. Anger is the other side of the fear coin.<br /><br />Your diagrams are also shit. The "primitive" part of your brain cannot possibly exist without the cognitive, as the cognitive is what allows the brain overall to know what it is looking at. Why is it that you don't fear a tree (maybe you do, but most people don't), but you might fear a charging bull? Because you've managed to identify the thing. Now, habituation of associations between the object and some idea of it will cause fear, but it is faulty to divide the brain in such a way as if the "primitive brain" were a real, independent brain. <br /><br />Also, your social hierarchy nonsense is crap. It's the quintessential problem of modern "science". They assume garbage and then try to pigeonhole and peg everything according to that initial set of asinine assumptions. With no genuine understanding of the essentials of what it means to be human (yes, women are human, not these tow mental masturbation aids that you've dehumanized them into), you cannot possible see that the social hierarchy is not essential to human, it is the result of mental aberrations and successive dehumanizations laid out bare into a disgusting display of human depravity. "Oh I'm just an alpha male". Oh, maybe you're not, maybe you're just a guy with self-esteem issues because you need the affirmations of others to function. Fool.<br /><br />And besides, love and sex are two different things. Ever hear of lust? Of trying to seduce your despair with sex? This blog is one of many shallow, armchair intellectual discussions that bellow idealism. You've dehumanized men and women into caricatures. You have transformed sex into an act of aggression and violence. Catholic? Right...<br /><br />Regarding rape, that is a fantasy among men and women alike who are fragmented and disconnected from their intuitions and who consequently feel like shit. They have lost truth guage, and now seek external guidance. Rape is a way of trying to force that externality inside. But it'll never work. It's a very modern disease. <br /><br />Women respond to tactile stimulus more than visual stimulus which is why women are better off beautiful and men tactile towards their partners.<br /><br />Finally: masculinity is a spiritual quality, but an emotional one. In older media, noble men were often presented as stoic, balanced, human and divine in heart. What you present is a sniveling cripple, a spiritually deformed malignant shitfest. This is not normal or healthy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29137904.post-44319869449752901352011-03-27T03:51:09.936+11:002011-03-27T03:51:09.936+11:00"...rather displays of over displays of tradi...<i>"...rather displays of over displays of traditional masculinity and some playful physicality, (throwing her over your shoulder etc) may help."</i><br /><br />Can't the wife spin this into an accusation of marital rape if she wants to?Davouthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11679094598013542866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29137904.post-86347405724770611632011-03-22T17:06:28.337+11:002011-03-22T17:06:28.337+11:00Another entertaining and "just say it like it...Another entertaining and "just say it like it is" paper by Baumeister can be found at:<br /><br />http://www.psy.fsu.edu/~baumeistertice/goodaboutmen.htm<br /><br />I'm honestly surprised the guy can get away with saying what he does. I realize he's got tenure and all but there are numerous ways to squeeze out a non-PC faculty member.mnlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07816137508182175224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29137904.post-75826532677232815652011-03-21T00:56:45.344+11:002011-03-21T00:56:45.344+11:00"Now it needs to also be understood that in t..."Now it needs to also be understood that in the fantasy the woman is raped by a man of her choosing, in other words, she gets to vet the "rapist". Still what the fantasy shows is domination by a desired man."<br /><br /> This is why it cannot be deemed "rape" SP.. True rape occurs when a women is forced to have sex against her will.<br /><br /><br />If a woman wants a particular man to have his way with her, then, how can that be considered to be rape?<br /><br /> Domination by a desired man is not rape.Kathy Farrellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16532126739204105127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29137904.post-67225125266350959502011-03-18T14:49:45.088+11:002011-03-18T14:49:45.088+11:00Guys are often accused of just wanting to get in a...Guys are often accused of just wanting to get in a girl's pants. This isn't the problem -- of course the guy wants to get in the girl's pants. The interesting question is WHY does the guy want to have sex with the girl. <br /><br />Now, there's this highly unusual reason some guys want to have sex that doesn't get discussed very often, namely that the guy actually loves the girl. I'm talking about real love, as in the "wants the girl to be happy and healthy and safe and grow spiritually and fulfill her purpose" type love. <br /><br />Again, the Catholic position here makes lots of sense: "If you love that girl, why don't you marry her so you can more easily keep loving on her for the next 50 years or so? Oh, and if you think she's lovable, wait until the adorable and cuddly little children show up!" The logic of this position is difficult to refute.<br /><br />One of the difficulties seems to be that lots of women seem to be increasingly resistant to love. They want abuse and mistreatment rather than love. "Good" girls are just girls who actually believe that they deserve and can accept love. Thus they are good to themselves, and respond well when they are loved by their man.<br /><br />If a "good" girl knows that her husband really loves her, and understands that when he's physically affectionate towards her it's because he, in fact, loves her, the sheer sanity of the situation is going to lead to lots and lots of sex. Thus "good" girls are very, very "naughty".<br /><br />"Bad" girls are "damaged" in that it's really hard to love on them regardless of what one tries. Everything gets twisted and warped when dealing with them, especially sexually. Loving a girl who is constantly trying to damage herself is a terrible burden to a kindly man. Best to leave such burdens to the psychiatrists.Robert Brockmannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29137904.post-4113613477693566302011-03-17T21:56:45.869+11:002011-03-17T21:56:45.869+11:00@Dan
I my opinion there are a group of women that...@Dan<br /><br />I my opinion there are a group of women that seem to be really turned on by "physicality".<br /><br /><br /><i>My main question is this, how often do women initiate some level of violence in order to get turned on</i><br /><br />One of my patients came to me after being released from jail for domestic assault. An argument had started at home between him and his partner, knowing that he did not want to hit her, he left the house, She followed him screaming and yelling at him whilst following him for TWO blocks before he snapped and punched her. She called the cops and he ended up in jail.<br /><br />After he was released he resolved never to have anything to do with her again and broke up their relationship. She begged him to come back.<br /><br />He managed to find a new partner and his ex stalked and abused her.<br /><br />There's a lot of women who like a bit of drama in their lives.The Social Pathologisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12927698533626086780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29137904.post-74670151043489282692011-03-17T00:56:58.368+11:002011-03-17T00:56:58.368+11:00I will read the articles when I get the chance, bu...I will read the articles when I get the chance, but allow me to say that I am deeply sceptical about any study about abuse in the modern age. <br /><br />In my experience, there seldom are any studies which examine the extent to which women initiate the violence in a relationship, while in my experience it is generally the women who do so in real life.<br /><br />My main question is this, how often do women initiate some level of violence in order to get turned on, maybe some require some level of this to acheive arousal???Dan in Phillynoreply@blogger.com